Friday, February 17

A "real" dream

Anyway, I had a dream this morning that seemed *so* real. I don't know where we were, but we were getting ready to go to McDonald's when I said to Rain, "You know what, it just occurred to me, you're not supposed to be here." She was totally surprised that I said that and of course I had to explain everything about the coma, etc. I then told her when we got back from Mickeys that we needed to call her brother because he took it the hardest and he'd be very happy to know that she was alive. I of course mentioned needing to call her mom, her sister, et al. I knew we were low on cash and needed to check the bank account online to see if the benefits had been direct deposited, so we could go eat. Never did (in the dream) get online. Then I woke up and here we are, and now I know it was just a dream :( That was a first!

Have you ever had a dream like that?

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6 comments:

Lee said...

Kirsty had dreams a bit like that after her mom passed. I think it is because the wall between our worlds is thin for a while and our loved ones want us to know that they are okay and they want to know that we are okay.

Todd said...

That would be good. Others suggest that maybe she didn't know she had died, so when I mentioned that she "shouldn't be here" in the dream that was the first time she had heard. *shrug*

Anonymous said...

I thought two things reading this, as others have suggested, it might be she was not aware that she was dead--in which case, telling her that ya'll needed to call her brother, etc. to tell them she is alive might have been confusing and you will probably see her again. Do *you* fell she is still "local" or does she feel farther away? And that does not mean that one can't come to visit even though one no longer lives here--if you know what I mean.
The other thought, and my strongest one after reading your entire post, was that *your* brain was dealing with Rain's death. A part of you is still expecting her to be there when she isn't and this dream helped (hopefully) to straighten out the discrepancy.
As far as "have I ever had a dream like that"...well, not with Rain in it but I have more "real" dreams than dreams that I know are dreams when I am asleep. And a far majority of them are so real that the transition to the waking world has been difficult because of the change in situation and it seems less real.
They are not aware

Melody and Gary said...

Todd,
Melody has only dreamt about her Mother 3 times in four years, they are always happy dreams where everything seems fine and they talk about little things, it always make her (Melody) cry when she wakes up as she tries to remember everything from the dream because the dreams are so vivid. Their conversations are so matter of fact, but it always makes her happy because she knows where ever her Mother is, she is okay.
We're happy you're dreaming again.

Todd said...

Anon wrote "Do *you* fell she is still "local" or does she feel farther away?"

Up until that dream, I *think* she felt closer, mostly because it just won't stop raining here :) Other than that, I just don't know.

"The other thought, and my strongest one after reading your entire post, was that *your* brain was dealing with Rain's death. A part of you is still expecting her to be there when she isn't and this dream helped (hopefully) to straighten out the discrepancy."

If that's the case, it was/is completely unconscious. I don't wake up thinking she should be here, ya know? Again, don't know.*shrug*

Melody and Gary, my dream was a happy one as I remember. Glad that Melody's are happy knowing her mother is okay.

Anonymous said...

Of course it is not a conscious thing, if it was conscious they would have you in a "hospital" wearing a long armed white shirt that makes you hug yourself. But when one spends a long time with another almost always there, it is not that easy for all parts of ones mind to adjust at the same pace. And it took me longer to adjust fully to my dog dying than it has been since Rain died. And we hadn't been together as long as you and Rain--let alone the difference in the type of relationship.
Then again, maybe my mind isn't as integrated as others but it isn't always that easy to break a habit for anybody.
They are not aware