As you know, "they" say that people need people, that we are as a species, social creatures. I guess we do better overall when we interact with others on a regular basis. It's just that I'm beginning to think that I personally am not a group person. Whenever I'm in a group of people, I tend to be the one watching and listening from the outside, not really saying much unless someone talks directly to me. It just the way I've been my entire life, and as much as we're told that we need people, I don't think I need groups of them. One or two friends hanging out and shooting the breeze is great though. I think I might try another meetup group that is more tailored to the over 40 and single people. I will probably maintain my memberships with the 2 *groups I'm currently signed up with, but I think it would be good for me to slow down on the number of events that I attend. I'm thinking it would be good to go to things that we actually do something like bowling, and maybe dancing once in a while. I truly suck at dancing. My MS really screws with my balance and my feet won't seem to 'step' like they're supposed to. Either that or I'm so out of practice and self conscious that it just feels like I can't do it.
I'm just feeling a bit unsure of what I'm doing right now. Thanks for reading.
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4 comments:
I go back and forth with needing people and not needing people. And historically, at a party I have filled in the whole spectrum of "sociablness," from center of attention/life-of-the-party to hiding in plain sight and hoping no one notices me until can leave without being rude.
You, yes you, have never, that I have seen, even in small groups that you know all the folks, been comfortable with addressing everyone at once. You are a one-on-one, or one-to-two at tops, conversationalist. You need more intimacy whereas it depends on my mood how I am.
Don't be discouraged, just recognize it and work within it. When you do go to these meet-ups, or whatever, and talk to someone, tell them that you are better at just a couple/few people and see if you don't find others that are really like that too. Watch for someone sitting on the fringes, as you do, then "screw your courage to the hitching post" and go talk for a moment.
Yep. I agree with how I will approach these group things. I'm just not going to worry about talking to everyone and just talk to those few that I'm comfortable enough to do so. I talked to a few at the bowling alley last night, and even high-fived and high-tenned a couple of times.
65I often feel the same way. I prefer smaller groups and just a few good friends. Sadly, my good friends are all far and unable to "hang out" in person .... But the older I get the less I want to be in a large crowd of people...
I was pretty comfortable in MO with just my immediate family and a few friends who we visited once in a while or vice versa. that was then though, now I have a feeling I won't meet anyone 'special' unless I'm with people doing things. There's not much to do by one's self amongst plenty of people to meet, hence why I joined the meetup groups. Joining groups of people to meet with and do things with is very different than who I have been in the past. Ya got to evolve, I guess.
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