Thursday, March 1

Being both or Mr. Mom

I was just thinking that despite feeling like we should do more fun things together, as a family, I'm finding that time is less available to do things as dad when I also feel I have to play the part of mom. Things like keeping up with chores and also delegating (or remembering to) chores that I'd need help with. Now that I am the the family cook after 20 years of not needing to be, plus add in that one of the symptoms of MS is lack of appetite, it makes not only deciding what to cook difficult but also when to cook. Because the kids won't tell me that they are hungry until after they start getting really hungry, I get side-tracked with school, doing the financial stuff, chores, and trying to think of/find fun things to do with the kids, and then figure out how to pay for things that require funding. An arcade, putt-putt golf, or something along those lines, costs money. Basically I'm finding it unnerving not knowing if I'm doing everything good enough as a parent (bill payer, etc) because Rain took care of everything financial and cooked 99.9% of the meals. Now it's my job (I know that's not what I really mean) and I'm worried I'll fall down on the job, or forget something crucial. Yes, I know I can only do the best that I can, but still...

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5 comments:

Angelica said...

You're doing a great job as a parent. I couldn't of asked for a better dad <3. I feel very blessed.

Lee said...

I think it sounds like you are doing great. and maybe if you sit down with the kids you can work out a plan for helping with meal preps with them. Or rotating the cooking amongst the 3 of you?

Todd said...

Thank you, Lee. Angelica and I do share meal cooking from time to time. It's probable a good idea to ask Eldin if he also wants to join in on that.

Caz said...

You do the best job you can, with what life gives you at the time. I'm sure you are doing a great job Todd. Maybe it will help if you approach the kids about how you're all going to adjust to the changed situation at home and make it a team effort? It will help the kids to focus on the positive task of helping you and give them a bit of ownership and an element of control (I'm sure they must feel like life is pretty much out of their control right now) ... and it will have the added benefit of helping you stay well. I know that YOU know that, but it's important to remember to take care of yourself!

Todd said...

Angelica is being a lot of help, but I need to spend some one on one time with Eldin the 16 y.o.